Groom's childhood best friend is disinvited from the wedding over the bride's fears about her having an old crush on him, then blamed her for ruining it when her parents cancel the free catering a week before the ceremony: 'The friendship is over'

Author image for Celeste Mello
Celeste Mello • Writer and Editor
Oct 6, 2026 3:15 PM EDT

The friendship is over; that seems clear. Being uninvited from your childhood best friend's wedding is enough reason to consider it a fact.

This woman posted on the AITA subreddit that she found out she was considered a potential source of drama despite never interfering in their relationship. After being disinvited, her parents, who were about to give them the wedding catering as a gift, decided they no longer wanted to provide the food for free. This was also a source of dispute. The couple accused her of ruining the wedding because of her parents' decision to cancel the catering a week before the ceremony. 

The friend sharing the story grew up close to the groom, and her family was very close with theirs. Both sets of parents used to tease them about becoming a couple in the past, but the truth is they never dated, although the friend did have feelings for him. Anyways, when Ryan announced his engagement, the friend accepted that a relationship between them would not happen and behaved appropriately. According to the post, she never interfered in his decision. Naturally, she would never cause drama at the wedding. 

Despite the long friendship and the closeness of the families, Ryan decided to withdraw the invitation, prioritizing the bride's feelings. After hearing what happened, the parents decided they would not attend, which is reasonable. After sharing so many years together, how could Ryan uninvite their daughter? Ryan even dared to call her 'petty' when actually he was the one who chose to exclude his friend and still expected her family's contribution to continue. 

Advertisement
  • The groom uninvites his childhood best friend after accommodating the bride's fears about her past feelings for him.
    via Unsplash+ (Alexander Mass)

    The groom uninvites his childhood best friend after accommodating the bride's fears about her past feelings for him.

    Image depicted solely for explanatory purposes.

  • AITA for ruining my childhood best friend wedding after I was disinvited.

    The wedding is in a week and I could still fix everything if I am being a . Though I think the friendship is over
    via daughtersIssues12
  • Growing up, I was very close friends with Ryan. Our family were closed friends and it was not uncommon for both sets of parents to tease us about being together. Examples asking when
    via daughtersIssues12
  • we would get together. It would be comments when we went out asking if they were dates. They referred to us as a couple. It was that type of thing.
    via daughtersIssues12
  • We didn't date and when we went to college we grew apart. I did have feelings for him, but after college he moved away to
    via daughtersIssues12
  • another state and it just didn't happen. We mostly just send tic tome to each other.
    via daughtersIssues12
  • The groom happily prioritizes the bride's feelings and uninvites his childhood best friend to the wedding.
    via Unsplash+ (Alexander Mass)

    The groom happily prioritizes the bride's feelings and uninvites his childhood best friend to the wedding.

    Featured likenesses do not identify those mentioned.

  • He announced his engagement, and I knew it would never happen and I was okay with that. His wedding is going to be back home (our home town area). My
    via daughtersIssues12
  • family is going the catering as a wedding gift. They are making the food for the wedding There is no contract, this was suppose to be a gift.
    via daughtersIssues12
  • He called me yesterday and uninvited me to the wedding. He said his fiance is uncomfortable with me coming since they knows I had feelings for him. She thinks
    via daughtersIssues12
  • I will do something to cause drama at fhe wedding. I told him I would never go that and I have literally never tried to cause problem in any of his relationships. I was still uninvited.
    via daughtersIssues12
  • I was upset, and told my mom what happened. My parent think it is bulls and are now not going to the wedding. That means the catering is canceled.
    via daughtersIssues12
  • The wedding catering the friend's parents were supposed to give them as a gift, but cancelled a week before the wedding.
    via Unsplash+ (Jonathan Borba)

    The wedding catering the friend's parents were supposed to give them as a gift, but cancelled a week before the wedding.

    Still frame for contextual reference only.

  • My mom informed the couple and I got a call from Ryan who was upset. He called me petty for taking back the family's gift when I was uninvited. That they don't
    via daughtersIssues12
  • have time to get someone else or the money. That's his fiance was right that I did want to ruin the wedding.
    via daughtersIssues12
  • Was I over the line? Should I convince my family to do the food even if I am not invited.
    via daughtersIssues12
  • InvestmentClassic67 you don't un-invite the friend who's parents are catering for free. he must have told her you have/had feelings.
    via InvestmentClassic67
  • Sugrmist24 You didn't cancel it, your family did, it's their right to do so especially since it's a gift.
    via Sugrmist24
  • Oxygene13 It wasnt your choice to be uninvited, it wasnt your choice to cancel the catering. Whats the problem? NTA
    via Oxygene13
  • Timtayy69 NTA. You didn't know that would result in catering being pulled and it's your parents decision to make
    via Timtayy69

Want More? Follow Us and Add Us as a Preferred Source on Google.

Tags

friendship drama wedding invitations childhood friends wedding drama wedding catering wedding gift
Scroll Down For The Next Article